Following trauma there is hope of recovery. However recovery from mental anguish can take a long time and with something like PTSD it can sometimes leave a person stuck in a moment in time when they were traumatised – they keep reliving the same memories over and over and over again.
Hope of recovery is very important with mental or physical health and with addiction. It is so important to keep moving forward and even if it means only taking tiny steps and inching along, that is okay.
Recovery can look like doing something one hasn’t done for a long time, seeing a long-lost friend, reading a book or writing a blog. And perhaps most of all, it can be just simply having fun, not focussing on the negative side of life.
Having been to many funerals recently, I haven’t had so much fun of late. Yesterday I stayed with a dear friend and her wonderful daughter. We all made a list of ten people we would invite to a dinner party. We read out our lists, one person at a time and we spoke about why the particular person was on our list. We also explained why people had been crossed off and replaced.
My number one person was Prince Harry (the others shall remain a secret). He was chosen because he is a great advocate for mental health and has suffered his own trauma and is in my view a remarkable and fascinating man, someone who I would love to share a dinner table with.
At the end of this exercise, we analyse what our lists said about us. I had chosen some guests who were quite controversial and I think there could have been a few heated discussions going on during the evening.
Following on from this, we all made a list of ten foods we would offer up at our dinner parties. On my list was: Wensleydale cheese with apricots and biscuits, in true Wallace and Grommit style.
We had a great evening, with a lot of laughing and smiling happening. This cost no money and yet was fabulous entertainment. You don’t have to spend money or even go out to have a good time. You can just use a bit of imagination to get those creative juices flowing. And laughter is such good medicine for the soul.
So today’s recipe for hope is to do something fun at least once a week. To be inventive and to find lovely friends to share great times with. And if you are recovering, to be very very kind to yourself.
Have a fun-filled week X